"what if its just a phase?"

"good for you for supporting him"

"you should make him wait for T until (random age)"

"what if he regrets it?"

"but it can't be real, I didn't see any signs"

"you must be wonderful parents"

"in the end, we don't have a choice". That's the quote my husband and I keep telling the therapist, each other, and as an answer to all of the above. We can argue, give statistics, reason it out, seek out professional help. But, when it comes right down to it, we have two options. Get on the train, or let the train leave without us.

We are at a station, the train is leaving NOW, we can't stop it. We can't even slow it down. We don't know what station it will stop at or even if it will ever stop. We might even end up at our intial station. Maybe not. But, our child is on the train. We love him unconditionally. So, we get on the train and trust. We hope you'll join us. But, we won't get off the train...no, not even if you scream at us to get off from the platform. Because our child is on board. We could grab him and force him off but he would just run back on as it leaves and never ask us again to join him. What would you do? We choose our child. Always.